Ya know, how when you injure a body part, you become aware and amazed at how many times it comes in contact with everything in your life? Where before that injury, that awareness was not so obvious?
In 18 months I experienced the passing of my son, my dad, and then my mother.
It seems that now there are constant, continual, and unrelenting reminders of each of them. Very, very subtle sometimes. And I am now conscious of so many references and nuances, to and about those loved ones, than I ever realized when we were all living our lives together.
I’m wondering, if they were still physically here, would there be so many “triggers”?
Or, is it that the loss of their presence is what really punches up how dynamic they were and how much influence they actually have on me?
I once heard that sadness and feelings of loss should be highly appreciated and experienced, because that is the evidence that shows the extent and amount of love you have for that person and relationship.