If someone is angry, you probably don’t hear much of what is being said.
That heavy emotion overwhelms and confuses any logic they are trying to get you to understand. All you know is they are pissed off, so any point they are trying to make gets lost in all that anger being splattered all over the place.
Same with your kids or anyone, for that matter. If you want to get a point across, it is much more effective if you explain what you want them to understand without including a bunch of emotion and upset in the mix.
Whispering is more effective than an uncontrolled rant.
Try it.